Hey people!
I’m not good at everything in this world. Lately, however, I’ve
noticed two things I’m good at: hair/makeup and giving my guyfriends dating
advice.
I just realized how many girls have asked me to do their
makeup or hair and like what I do on them, and it’s been going on since I
learned to do it. I feel like I need to do more makeup or hair on girls, take
pictures and post them! I’m obviously not a pro or anything, but I know some
tricks here and there that girls seem to like! I will get on it.
This is my friend Sarah. Sorry boys, she’s married! But
anyways, I was doing my hair and makeup for the photoshoot I did with her and
then did hers for fun and she looked GREAT! I did black liquid liner on the top
lid with a little bit of silver eyeshadow on her crease, black mascara, light pink blush on the apples of her cheeks and red lipstick. I thought it would
look pretty on her because she’s very pale and has killer blue eyes so I
thought it would really make her eyes pop!
I’ve also noticed I get a lot of texts from my guyfriends
about the girls they like and I always seem to have answer to their questions.
I dunno, I feel like I can read women very well. I can observe a guy and a girl
as a third-party and know right away what the girls’ intentions are with a guy.
So guys, if you ever need help talking to a girl or knowing what the girl
wants, I’m your winglady!
Based on that, I decided to share 7 tips for all you men out
there!
1. Don’t
volunteer workout reports:
I
know you want to impress the girl you got your eye on by showing her how
athletic you are. It’s understandable! But if you have to tell people about how
good you are at something, it’s an indication that you don’t believe it
yourself if you have to keep showing off about it. And there is nothing less
attractive than a guy with no self-esteem. Trust me, most of the girls I’ve
talked to can tell if a guy works out or not. So you don’t have to tell her!
She will know.
2. Don’t
post shirtless pictures of yourselves on Facebook (beach/swimming pool is an
exception of course)
It’s
tacky. Whenever I see a guy doing a selfie in his closet or bathroom mirror
without his shirt on I feel like he’s saying “I have no self-esteem, so I will
post a picture of my abs so I can get lots of likes. So please make your
contribution.” Compliments should be EARNED, not given out of charity! Obviously
if you’re at the beach or at any other event where you wouldn’t be wearing a
shirt you don’t have to run and get your shirt on for a picture! I’m talking
about guys who purposefully take their shirts off for pictures to show off
their abs.
3. Don’t
post your Book of Mormon reading progress on Facebook
“Look
how spiritual I am!” is what it translates to. Yes, women of the church should
look for worthy priesthood holders who can take them to the temple. But, your
worthiness isn’t indicated by your Facebook statuses on oh how spiritual you
are. Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints have this
amazing gift called the gift of the Holy Ghost. Through it, we can feel whether
or not the person around us is living worthily. I’ve had experiences where I talked
to people and I just didn’t feel good being around them and felt prompted to
stay away from them because for some reason, it didn’t feel safe. On the other
hand, I’ve also felt the spirit so strongly around other people I just wanted
to be around them more! And they didn’t even need to post those kind of
statuses. So focus more on being worthy and keeping the commandments than on
telling people you do.
Obviously
it’s okay to post a verse you really felt the spirit reading on Facebook,
though. Just the other day this girl posted a really good verse that uplifted
me, and I’m grateful to her for posting it. So if it’s gonna uplift someone
then definitely post it! But if it’s being posted with the intention of making
yourself look spiritual, then no. As the Saviour put it, “do not sound a
trumpet before you, as will hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets,
that they may have glory of men. Verily I say unto you, they have their reward”
(3 Nephi 13:2)
4. Be
genuine
Be
yourself! A girl can tell when a guy is just putting on a show to impress her
and let me tell you, it is NOT attractive. It’ll give her reason to think that
who you truly are wouldn’t impress her if you’re trying so hard to hide it. Be
yourself and if she doesn’t accept you for that, then she’s not right for you.
It doesn’t make her a jerk or anything; it just means you’re not that
compatible and that you should move on to someone you are more compatible with.
Another
aspect of being genuine is to let a conversation flow naturally. Some guys
focus so hard on making sure things progress and that they score a date with a
girl, that all they end up doing is flirting but don’t really get to know each
other. So relax, and worry more about getting to know her than on letting her
know you want to date her! If anything it takes the pressure off and will make
her feel more comfortable around you.
5. Complimenting
It’s
okay to tell a girl you think she’s pretty. Girls love it! Whenever one of my
girlfriends are told by a guy that they’re pretty they’re usually all giddy and
twitter-pated. So yes, compliments are good! But, if ALL you do when you’re
talking to her is tell her how pretty she is, you’re giving her the impression
it’s the only reason why you’re talking to her and that’s all you see in her. A
guy who truly cares about a girl sees more than just looks; he sees her
character, her heart, her intelligence, her sense of humour, etc. Girls will
trust you more when you point out attributes you see in her other than looks.
She is less likely to assume you’re only in it for a NCMO (Non-committal
make-out) session when you show you genuinely care about her.
6. Stop
fishing for compliments
Never,
ever, EVER go up to a girl and ask her if she thinks you’re good-looking. If
she’s attracted to you, she will let you know when she’s comfortable telling
you. It puts her on the spot.
Another
way people fish for compliments is tearing themselves down, making the person
you’re tearing yourself down to feel bad for you and thus feel obliged to
compliment you to feel less bad. Don’t do it, please. Compliments should be
earned. And as mentioned earlier, lack of self-esteem is unattractive.
Don’t
ever tear yourself down to the girl you’re interested in because it will make
you look less attractive. If you keep telling her you’re a loser who will never
succeed in life, chances are she will believe you and will thus not want
anything to do with you. If you keep telling her you’re ugly even if you’re
not, she will eventually believe you and lose attraction for you.
7. If
a girl hasn’t shown interest, she is probably not interested
I
don’t know why gus have this assumption that if a girl says no, she means yes.
That assumption is false. If you ask a girl out, she says no (regardless of the
excuse) and doesn’t suggest another time, she doesn’t want to go out with you!
If you’re flirting with a girl and she hasn’t flirted back, she doesn’t want to
flirt with you! If you’re talking to
girl and she’s only giving you one-worded answers and doesn’t ask you any
questions, she doesn’t want to talk to you!
Some
girls play hard to get or are simply shy, that is true. So it’s hard to tell if
a girl is just not into you, playing games, or is just shy. That’s where advice
#4 kicks in; focus more on getting to know her than on getting her to like you
back. The more you focus on getting to know her, the more you do get to know
her. And the more you get to know her, the better you will be able to tell
where she stands.
Anyways, I hope this was all
helpful. If you’re a girl who wants tips on how to do your hair or makeup ask
away! If you’re a guy who doesn’t know how to talk to girls, ask away!
XOXO,
Miss Mottola! <3
Miss Mottola! <3
